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What Seeds You are Growing in your Relationship?
What Seeds You are Growing?
Many things that we have or who we are, are the product of what we did and what we continue doing till now.
Our character and our attitudes are the results of our habits developed over time.
The Principle of Harvest
What we reap today is what we have planted years back.
What we are planting right now, is what we will harvest in the future.
Don’t expect to grow a mango by planting an avocado.
This is a universal law.
If we are planting today seeds of hatred, resentment, and un-forgiveness; then what do we expect to harvest?
If we plant hatred, we reap hatred. If we plant love, we will reap love.
Planting seeds for Good Relationship
If we are not planting a seed of a good relationship with our family, with our kids, with our relatives, with our friends, what do we expect? A successful family relationship needs time to be invested.
Women delight that their partners and their husband remember the day of their anniversary, their birthday, and every special occasion. Hugs, Kisses, and saying “I love you” need not be reserved only on special occasions. It should be often. It should be daily.
For some, it will be corny. But believe me, doing it regularly is a seed that strengthens the bond, love, and relationship of both partners.
There is always resistance at first. Yes, we will feel awkward at the start. But the more we do it, the more we love it. It does not become a routine, but it becomes a habit.
I remember when I was courting my ex-girlfriend (now my wife); there was not a day without sending her simple text messages. “How are you?”, “Have you taken your lunch?” Take care…..
Time Changes, we change
One time, it was Valentine’s day; I was waiting in my queue to buy flowers for Jonna.
Before I was a man in a bargain with the Saleslady. The man said, “how much is this bouquet of roses?” “It’s 100 dirham sir” replied the Saleslady. “It’s very expensive,” he said, “Give me the 20 dirhams only” he added. The Saleslady suggested “Kabayan, kunin nyo na yung bouquet at sigurado sasagutin kayo ng nililigawan nyo” (take the bouquet and for sure, the lady you are courting will give her “YES” to you). The man just replied “No problem, she’s already my wife.
I admit time changes.
There were times I forgot our anniversaries.
I am not the same guy who texts her daily.
Decision to Change
But we can still change the course if we decided to a different path and amend whatever shortcomings we have done.
When we realize that we are heading in the wrong direction and it is hurting our relationship, we have to make an immediate and absolute stop and do the right things.
Whatever good thing you planted earlier should be nurtured and allowed to continue to grow.
Whatever bad things that we planted could be replaced with a sincere and genuine action where we can show how sorry we are for the damage done in our relationship.
I decided to change. I commit to being more caring and responsible than I used to be.
I make ways to remember and celebrate our special occasions. I’m investing ample quality time with my family.
Handle with Care
A relationship is very fragile. Like glass, it is easy to throw it and let it be broken. But putting it back again to its old form will be really difficult.
A broken relationship heals but it takes time. There will always be scars left.
The usual problem in a restored relationship is trust issues. People forgive the partners to restart anew but don’t expect that it will be a smooth transition.
It takes time before trust returns.
Relationships should be handled with care.
The seeds to grow in a relationship
A good farmer doesn’t just plant seeds.
He carefully chooses the right kind and variety of seeds he wants to grow.
He cleans and tills the land before planting it on the ground. He waits patiently till its first leaves sprout. He watered it. He prunes it and protects it from animals and from humans.
He’s happy to see its flower grows until that flower falls and turns into fruits.
When we want to grow in relationships, like farmers we choose the right kind of seeds; our words, our actions, behaviors, attitudes, responses, and the emotions we are planting.
Farmers grow different seeds in different soil. In relationships, we adapt and adjust depending on the situation. We should know well our partners and learn to mutually adjust to living together in harmony.
We wait patiently. We don’t insist as results don’t happen over time. Especially for the new couple, there is always a period of knowing each other more.
We water it daily. We nurture our relationship with kind words, trust, understanding, love, care,, and appreciation.
We prune it. Pruning is a painful process. There were times come when we commit mistakes and do wrong. It’s hard to admit our mistakes. It’s difficult to ask forgiveness and it’s hard to forgive as well, but it’s part of the process.
The relationship is tested with trials and difficulties and it’s part of pruning.
But like plants, the more we prune the more it grows healthy.
The more it bears many fruits.
We can make a difference today
Our relationship with others is the outcome of what we invested in them.
The little things we do today could make a great difference in the future.
Carefully choose the seeds and let them grow.
Nurture it with love daily, patiently.
It’s not yet over. We can still start anew
It’s what we will do right now that makes the difference.
May your happiness be full,
Mikesendon
Mother, he is your son. She is your mother
JESUS’ GREAT LOVE FOR HER MOTHER
She is your son. The third last word while Jesus was hanging on the cross.
In these words, Jesus had shown His great love for her mother even He was at the last moment of his life.
Here, Mary had shown how great is the love of a mother for a son.
He felt what Her mother felt.
When Jesus said, “Mother, he is your son” did not mean that he don’t acknowledge her as a mother but rather He felt the pain her mother’s feeling at that time.
He was not only hurt by the beatings, by the tortures, from the spittle, from the people’s insults, from all the lashes and physical punishment he received; Jesus was more hurt seeing Her beloved mother suffer.
To see her mother weeping from the time that He was seized by the soldiers, falsely accused by the witnesses, judged by the Pharisees, tortured by the Roman soldiers until the time that He was hanging on the cross.
Who has a heart of stone who will not be moved to see your own mother in tears and suffering?
Only if Mary could carry the cross for Jesus. Mother’s instinct to bear the pain to spare his children from suffering and pain.
A Way of Saying Goodbye
Mother, she is your son- is a simple way of saying goodbye. “I will leave you now my beloved Mother”
The hardest word to part ways is goodbye. A single word could make two people live at a distance.
It was hard for Jesus to tell “Goodbye” as this will add more pain to her mother.
“Mother, I will not leave you completely alone. Here is John to take care of you”.
Jesus knew that John could fill the gap of her mother’s loneliness in his absence.
But even if Jesus introduces John to be her son, it will never change the fact that the pain will remain in Mary’s heart.
Jesus Appreciates the Goodness of Mary
“Son, she is your mother”. Jesus was proud of Mary’s goodness.
He wanted to highlight Mary as His mother and a true disciple.
At this point, Jesus might have recollected all the good years she spent with her mother.
All the memories he treasured throughout those years had come alive in Jesus’ mind.
Have we still remembered all the good times we had with our mother?
Are those good memories with them still linger in our thoughts?
How lovely and refreshing it is to remember the days with our mothers. If we can only go back in time.
For some of you whose mother is still alive, enjoy every moment with them. You will not go back in time.
Live every moment while you still have that opportunity to express your deep love and concerns for them.
“She is your son” is a word of description. It has a deep meaning as it is rooted in the very essence of Mary as Jesus’ mother.
It’s a phrase to describe Mary’s many valuable traits as our mother.
Jesus loves her mother. He was not ashamed to declare to John that love.
He wanted John to experience the love He had for her mother.
JESUS ENTRUSTED MARY TO JOHN
He asked John to let Mary be his mother
She is your mother- these are words of entrusting Mary to a dear friend.
Jesus trust John that he could consider Mary as his own mother.
He wanted to ease the loneliness of her mother’s heart and the pain of losing a son.
He felt the Pain of Losing a Dear Friend
She is your mother-a phrase to ease John’s pain in losing a beloved trusted friend, a brother, and a Master.
He wanted John to remember Him by her mother’s presence.
Jesus knew that Mary would be there for him for comforting his losing a dear friend.
Jesus Appreciates John’s Faithfulness
Mother, he is your son- Jesus highlights John’s faithfulness as a friend and disciple.
He recognizes John’s loyalty and despite the risk of being seized and captured by those people who put Jesus to death, he remains until the death of Jesus on the cross.
Among all the chosen apostles, he was there at the foot of the cross.
If John did not leave him, Jesus surely knew he will never leave her mother under his care.
Without a shadow of a doubt, he said “She is your mother.”
MARY WAS A GOOD MOTHER
Mary Rejoices When She Knows She will Bear a Child