Monthly Archives: April 2014


Peace is not the absence of war but the presence of GOD


What Seeds You are Growing in your Relationship?

What Seeds You are Growing?What seeds you are growing

Many things that we have or who we are, are the product of what we did and what we continue doing till now.

Our character and our attitudes are the results of our habits developed over time.

The Principle of Harvest 

What we reap today is what we have planted years back.

What we are planting right now, is what we will harvest in the future.

Don’t expect to grow a mango by planting an avocado.

This is a universal law.

If we are planting today seeds of hatred, resentment, and un-forgiveness; then what do we expect to harvest?

If we plant hatred, we reap hatred. If we plant love, we will reap love.

 Planting seeds for Good Relationship

If we are not planting a seed of a good relationship with our family, with our kids, with our relatives, with our friends, what do we expect? A successful family relationship needs time to be invested.

Women delight that their partners and their husband remember the day of their anniversary, their birthday, and every special occasion. Hugs, Kisses, and saying “I love you” need not be reserved only on special occasions. It should be often. It should be daily.

For some, it will be corny. But believe me, doing it regularly is a seed that strengthens the bond, love, and relationship of both partners.

There is always resistance at first. Yes, we will feel awkward at the start. But the more we do it, the more we love it. It does not become a routine, but it becomes a habit.

I remember when I was courting my ex-girlfriend (now my wife); there was not a day without sending her simple text messages. “How are you?”, “Have you taken your lunch?” Take care…..

 Time Changes, we change 

One time, it was Valentine’s day; I was waiting in my queue to buy flowers for Jonna.

Before I was a man in a bargain with the Saleslady.  The man said, “how much is this bouquet of roses?” “It’s 100 dirham sir” replied the Saleslady. “It’s very expensive,” he said, “Give me the 20 dirhams only” he added. The Saleslady suggested “Kabayan, kunin nyo na yung bouquet at sigurado sasagutin kayo ng nililigawan nyo” (take the bouquet and for sure, the lady you are courting will give her “YES” to you). The man just replied “No problem, she’s already my wife.

 I admit time changes.

There were times I forgot our anniversaries.

I am not the same guy who texts her daily.

Decision to Change 

But we can still change the course if we decided to a different path and amend whatever shortcomings we have done.

When we realize that we are heading in the wrong direction and it is hurting our relationship, we have to make an immediate and absolute stop and do the right things.

Whatever good thing you planted earlier should be nurtured and allowed to continue to grow.

Whatever bad things that we planted could be replaced with a sincere and genuine action where we can show how sorry we are for the damage done in our relationship.

I decided to change. I commit to being more caring and responsible than I used to be.

I make ways to remember and celebrate our special occasions. I’m investing ample quality time with my family.

Handle with Care

A relationship is very fragile. Like glass, it is easy to throw it and let it be broken. But putting it back again to its old form will be really difficult.

A broken relationship heals but it takes time. There will always be scars left. 

The usual problem in a restored relationship is trust issues. People forgive the partners to restart anew but don’t expect that it will be a smooth transition.

It takes time before trust returns.

Relationships should be handled with care.

The seeds to grow in a relationship 

A good farmer doesn’t just plant seeds.

He carefully chooses the right kind and variety of seeds he wants to grow.

He cleans and tills the land before planting it on the ground. He waits patiently till its first leaves sprout. He watered it. He prunes it and protects it from animals and from humans.

He’s happy to see its flower grows until that flower falls and turns into fruits.

When we want to grow in relationships, like farmers we choose the right kind of seeds; our words, our actions, behaviors, attitudes, responses, and the emotions we are planting.

Farmers grow different seeds in different soil. In relationships, we adapt and adjust depending on the situation. We should know well our partners and learn to mutually adjust to living together in harmony.

We wait patiently. We don’t insist as results don’t happen over time. Especially for the new couple, there is always a period of knowing each other more.

We water it daily. We nurture our relationship with kind words, trust, understanding, love, care,, and appreciation.

We prune it. Pruning is a painful process. There were times come when we commit mistakes and do wrong. It’s hard to admit our mistakes. It’s difficult to ask forgiveness and it’s hard to forgive as well, but it’s part of the process.

The relationship is tested with trials and difficulties and it’s part of pruning.

But like plants, the more we prune the more it grows healthy.

The more it bears many fruits.

 We can make a difference today

Our relationship with others is the outcome of what we invested in them.

The little things we do today could make a great difference in the future.

Carefully choose the seeds and let them grow.

Nurture it with love daily, patiently.

It’s not yet over. We can still start anew

It’s what we will do right now that makes the difference.

May your happiness be full,


Mother, he is your son. She is your mother


She is your son. The third last word while Jesus was hanging on the cross.
In these words, Jesus had shown His great love for her mother even He was at the last moment of his life.
Here, Mary had shown how great is the love of a mother for a son.

He felt what Her mother felt.

When Jesus said, “Mother, he is your son” did not mean that he don’t acknowledge her as a mother but rather He felt the pain her mother’s feeling at that time.
He was not only hurt by the beatings, by the tortures, from the spittle, from the people’s insults, from all the lashes and physical punishment he received; Jesus was more hurt seeing Her beloved mother suffer.
To see her mother weeping from the time that He was seized by the soldiers, falsely accused by the witnesses, judged by the Pharisees, tortured by the Roman soldiers until the time that He was hanging on the cross.
Who has a heart of stone who will not be moved to see your own mother in tears and suffering?
Only if Mary could carry the cross for Jesus. Mother’s instinct to bear the pain to spare his children from suffering and pain.

A Way of Saying Goodbye

Mother, she is your son- is a simple way of saying goodbye. “I will leave you now my beloved Mother”
The hardest word to part ways is goodbye. A single word could make two people live at a distance.
It was hard for Jesus to tell “Goodbye” as this will add more pain to her mother.
“Mother, I will not leave you completely alone. Here is John to take care of you”.
Jesus knew that John could fill the gap of her mother’s loneliness in his absence.
But even if Jesus introduces John to be her son, it will never change the fact that the pain will remain in Mary’s heart.

Jesus Appreciates the Goodness of Mary

“Son, she is your mother”. Jesus was proud of Mary’s goodness.
He wanted to highlight Mary as His mother and a true disciple.
At this point, Jesus might have recollected all the good years she spent with her mother.
All the memories he treasured throughout those years had come alive in Jesus’ mind.

Have we still remembered all the good times we had with our mother?
Are those good memories with them still linger in our thoughts?
How lovely and refreshing it is to remember the days with our mothers. If we can only go back in time.
For some of you whose mother is still alive, enjoy every moment with them. You will not go back in time.
Live every moment while you still have that opportunity to express your deep love and concerns for them.

“She is your son” is a word of description. It has a deep meaning as it is rooted in the very essence of Mary as Jesus’ mother.
It’s a phrase to describe Mary’s many valuable traits as our mother.
Jesus loves her mother. He was not ashamed to declare to John that love.
He wanted John to experience the love He had for her mother.


He asked John to let Mary be his mother

She is your mother- these are words of entrusting Mary to a dear friend.
Jesus trust John that he could consider Mary as his own mother.
He wanted to ease the loneliness of her mother’s heart and the pain of losing a son.
He felt the Pain of Losing a Dear Friend
She is your mother-a phrase to ease John’s pain in losing a beloved trusted friend, a brother, and a Master.
He wanted John to remember Him by her mother’s presence.
Jesus knew that Mary would be there for him for comforting his losing a dear friend.

Jesus Appreciates John’s Faithfulness

Mother, he is your son- Jesus highlights John’s faithfulness as a friend and disciple.
He recognizes John’s loyalty and despite the risk of being seized and captured by those people who put Jesus to death, he remains until the death of Jesus on the cross.
Among all the chosen apostles, he was there at the foot of the cross.
If John did not leave him, Jesus surely knew he will never leave her mother under his care.
Without a shadow of a doubt, he said “She is your mother.”


Mary Rejoices When She Knows She will Bear a Child

Luke 1:38 says ‘I am the Lord’s servant” said Mary; “May it happen to me as you have said”…
One of the most dangerous places today for a child is the mother’s womb.
Widespread campaigns for abortion and the use of contraceptives posses a risk to so many unborn children just in the womb of a mother.
If for some, to bear a baby is a burden, for Mary, it was of great blessing to be gifted as a mother.
Mother is God’s co-creator.
For some, they are worried to bear a child as they were made by accident. For men, it could be an accident but God has His own purpose.
There could be illegitimate parents yet with God, all are legitimate children.

Mary Raises Her Child to Grew Strong and Full of Wisdom

The child grew and become strong; he was full of wisdom and God’s blessing were upon Him-Luke 2:40
Mary was a responsible mother. Patience and love were so deep that she taught her son well.
Mother is our first teacher.
Today, there are a lot of children who grew up in the care of their Nannies.
Absentee parenting becomes common in our times. More parents that are less hands-on.

Mary Works Behind the Scene of Jesus Ministry

Mary was very supportive of her son’s ministry.

Mary Remains with Jesus even to His Death

Standing close to Jesus’ cross was here mother…-John 19:25
Mary endured all the pain and suffering as her son suffered.
She knew for a long time what would be the fate of her son. Simeon said when he prophesied, “He will be a sign from God which many people will speak against and so reveal their secret thoughts. And sorrow, like a sharp wood, will break your own heart”.


We Cannot Repay our Mother

Continue to do good and express always our love for our mother.
Cherish every moment while you are still with them and they are with us.
There is nothing that compares to the love a mother gives to us.
Thank God for having them. We can choose our partners and friends but not our parents.
Parents are God’s blessing to us.

Mike Sendon

WE ARE IN GOOD HANDS- (Into Thy Hands I Commend My Spirit)


(Into Thy Hand I Commend My Spirit)

Jesus heals a deformed hand

The Lord heals the hand of a man with a deformed hand on Sabbath day.

Do we have a normal hand that we don’t need healing from the Lord?

We may be having normal hands but believe me, in one or another, we need healing when we realize that we have our own hand abnormalities.

Spiritual Hands

Our hands might be normal. But what I want to focus not on its physical aspects.

Our hand gestures will speak out our unspoken words.

It could reveal our inner thoughts. Others could take a glimpse of our personality.

Our hands may show our spirituality.

Recognizing our Abnormalities

Do we have that hand problem?

Sometimes we are sick but we ignore our sickness we just simply ignore them.

We live normally until such time it is too late to find a cure.

We have to understand the symptoms.

We are asked to visit our doctors regularly every six months or a year for a general check.

Let us examine how we do well by checking if we have any hand deformities. 

Hands of Isolation

With hands open and raised toward the others, we may say “Stop! I don’t need you so close”.

Off-limits. Keep distance. Keep out.  “Leave me alone”.

A hand of isolation is a gesture where we don’t want to entertain others. A gesture that signals you want to be alone.

We don’t welcome others for a new relationship after a heartbreak. The pain is so much to bear that we close our doors to others. You don’t want to open up again.

You don’t want to listen. You don’t want to speak. You don’t want to see anybody. You don’t want to trust for now after somebody betrays your trust.

You want to shut up your window from the world and you feel pity for yourself.

The hand of isolation creates a wall to open up a new door for others who want to enter our life.

Hands of Selfishness

Sometimes we have this, when we pray, we only pray for ourselves or the people in our circles.

These are the hands who always ask but don’t’ know how to give.

A hand gesture that is so possessive and self-centered. A lot of marriage fails because the partner is so possessive that the others can’t breathe anymore. They don’t trust their partners and even others too.

Selfish hands are close hands. It opens only when it wanted to receive but closes immediately afterward.

I have learned that to catch a monkey in India, the natives use a coconut. A whole coconut slightly opened with peanut inside.

The monkey will put his hand inside the hollow coconut and let his fist grab the peanut. When his hand is inside the coconut, he is trapped. The hunter will pull the string attached to the end of the coconut and capture the monkey. With its hand closed, holding the bait inside, he will not open it. That is why; it will run with its hand inside the coconut. The monkey cannot run far so the hunter catches them easily.

Hands of Judgment & Condemnation

These are hands that always pointing out to others.

“It is not my mistake. It is his mistake”.

Remember the two people praying inside the temple? The publican was at the back knocking his chest and he could not even look up asking forgiveness for he was a sinner. And the Pharisees thank God because he is better than the publicans.

How many times do we judge others the way we look at them? Considering ourselves more oh highly regards in terms of our stature, that we have a better work, that we are more educated, that we have more influence than we are wealthier and others are less fortunate.

These are those who look into the color of others’ skin and regard themselves better than their neighbors.

When we point our finger to someone, remember three of our fingers are pointing at us and the thumb is pointed upward.

Hands of Punishment & Pain

Hands gesture that causes pain physically. The victims usually are the battered wife, maltreated maids and servants, abused children, tortured detainees, and prisoners….

These are hands that always inflict pain and hurt others not only physically but also emotionally.

Hurt emotions are difficult to heal rather than the wound inflicted by physical means.

These are people who hurt others with their careless words and actions. They don’t care if they hurt others’ feelings or not. People who are not sensitive to the feeling of others.

These are individuals who don’t know how to appreciate the effort and the importance of others.

Hands of Rejection

Hand gesture with thumbs down.

These are people who are difficult to please.

These are people who don’t appreciate and value the works of others. No matter what good you’ve done, for them it’s rejected.

These are people who put down the morale of others. They take away hope from a person, who aspires to succeed.

These might be a group of people who exclude themselves from the rest. If you are not a part of it, you are not welcome.

These are people who don’t accept suggestions and listen to others’ advice considering that they know everything and that their ideas are better than others.

Hands of Failure and hopelessness

This is a hand gesture with two hands open palm facing up with both shoulders raised up accompanied by a frustrated face.

These are people who accepted failure as their destiny.

For them, failures are walls too high for them to climb. It’s too high that they could not see any hope beyond those walls.

The need for healing

Remember what Jesus told to the Pharisees? “If you say that you see then you are blind, but if you tell that you’re blind then you see.

If we tell that everything is normal and we don’t need healing, the more we need our healer.

Accept that we are weak and frail.

Recognize that we have the tendency to different hand abnormalities and we need healing for our deformed hands.

God knows that we need healing both physically and spiritually.

He desires to heal and deliver us from these abnormalities if we wanted to.

God desires that we possess hands:

–          hands of belongings rather than hands of isolation

–          hands of generosity rather than hands of selfishness

–          hands of compassion rather than hands of judgment and condemnation

–          hands of forgiveness and mercy rather than hands of punishment and pain

–          hands of approval rather than hands of rejection

–          hands of triumph rather than hands of failure and hopelessness

–          hands of total surrender rather than hands of defeat

–          hands of prayer rather than hands of  a losers

We are in good hands

We are in good hands with God.

Into the hands of a loving Father to a prodigal son.

Into the generous hands who multiply the fish and bread to feed thousands.

It’s the hands of forgiveness like Mary Magdalene on the brink of stoning to death because of adultery.

It’s the hands of compassion to sinners like Zacheus.

Into the healing hands that open the eyes of Barthemeus and the many men who were lamed, blind, possessed deaf, mute, lepers, and sicked.

Into the hands that give life who raised Lazarus from the dead.

It’s the hands of hope like the criminal Dimas who seized heaven at his last moment.

Hands nailed on the cross open wide with arms stretch forth full of love.

Hands so open welcoming each one of us without any doubt of rejection. Without any fear of punishment. Hands full of mercy and compassion.

Into His loving hands alone we can commend our life.

Now tell me, to which hands you will entrust your life?

May you find peace as you entrust your life into His loving hands,

Mike Sendon