Formation, Inspirational, Relationship

GROUNDED AND ROOTED IN LOVE

Grounded & Rooted in Love

Ephesians 3:16-19

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We were created by God with love.

We are living because of His love.

We have the power to love.

As we are a product of God’s love, it is just right that we live; we celebrate and share that love we received.

STRENGTHENING THE INNER MAN

People of today are more focused on strengthening the outer man.

We go to gym to make our body fit and strong, we go to saloon and spa to make us look younger, we visit doctors to be healthy.

We are more concerned on the outside that we forget to strengthen our inner man.

That is why when problems come, we easily surrender. We easily give up.

In relationship, in marriage we easily give up and find replacement.

Divorce, split and separation is just like changing clothes or gadgets.

Why because we missed the basics.

Where are the gyms for the inner man that hones our character, our faithfulness, our faith and our love?

Increases in Value

Last Valentine’s day, there were scarcity of flowers inspite of its price gone double. The queue was more and many men were fighting their way to buy flower for their love ones.

I remember one time on the same Valentine ’s Day, there was a man asking the Sales lady how much was a bouquet of flowers.

The Saleslady replied “100 Dhs”; and the man said, ” Oh its very expensive, It’s only fifty during ordinary day. Anyway, just give me the single rose. How much is that?”

“10 Dhs Kabayan!” says the Sales lady. But the lady suggested “ Kabayan, it’s better you give a bouquet of lovely flower so that your girlfriend will say Yes when you propose..But the man said” No need, she’s already my wife!”

As time flies by, we heard countless of stories of marriage being broken. It is because as time passes, we neglect to value the partner that we have.

The value of our partners, our friends or relatives should not be compared to a price of our gadget where it depreciates overtime.

Their worth should increase even more like an old whisky fermented for years.

 

IT’S ONLY HERE ON EARTH

We should give importance on this gift of having a partner because it’s only here on earth.

Have we remembered when a Sadducee asks the Lord about resurrection? His questions was

19“Teacher,” they said, “Moses wrote for us that if a man’s brother dies and leaves a wife but no children, the man must marry the widow and raise up offspring for his brother. 20Now there were seven brothers. The first one married and died without leaving any children. 21The second one married the widow, but he also died, leaving no child. It was the same with the third. 22In fact, none of the seven left any children. Last of all, the woman died too. 23At the resurrection whose wife will she be, since the seven were married to her?”

Jesus replied, “Are you not in error because you do not know the Scriptures or the power of God? 25When the dead rise, they will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven. 26Now about the dead rising—have you not read in the Book of Moses, in the account of the burning bush, how God said to him, ‘I am the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob’d ? 27He is not the God of the dead, but of the living. You are badly mistaken!”                                                                                                                                                   -Matthew 18:19-27

It is therefore that marriage is only here on earth.

If you are single and want to be married, then avail this opportunity because in heaven, your spouse will not be your spouse anymore.

 

OPEN THE COMMUNICATION

Most of the problems encountered by so many are marriage related problems.

A man has settled for another one. A nagger wife that makes the man avoided going home.

There was a saying that on the 1st to 2nd year of marriage, the man speaks and the wife listens. On the 3rd to 4th yr of their relationship, the wife speaks and the man listens. But on the 5th yr of their marriage, both couple speaks and the neighbor listens.

One time, wife brings his husband to doctor for check up and said, “Doc my husband has a serious problem because he speaks every time he is sleeping”..

After the consultation, the Dr called the wife privately and she asked, “is there any problem with my husband?” “There was no problem with your husband .Just allow him to speak when he is awake.”

Relationship over time dwindles because one partner controls the others.

Communication gaps started because of partners are occupied with so many things in life.

And because of this, it results to quarrel and misunderstanding of the couple.

Couple quarrels but because they don’t want their children to know about it, they usually treat their partner SILENT TREATMENT.

They share the same bed at night, they eat at the same table but they pretend to be ok.

 

SILENT TREATMENT

One time, couple quarrels and they treat each other a Silent treatment.

To avoid clashes, they don’t talk to each other.

But the problems come when a man needs to wake up early morning the next day but He is dependent on her wife to wake him up…

So he wrote a note saying “I have a flight to catch, wake me up at 5AM”.

The next day, the man was so angry when he noticed that it’s already 9AM.

He immediately ran to his wife and angrily said:” I told you to wake me up at 5AM, now I’m late because you did not wake me up”. The woman said, “Hey, before you get angry to go back to our room and read your note”. The man go back to their room, pick up the note beside the bed and read the handwriting of his wife “Hey wake up, you have a flight to catch!”

We should not let our pride ruin our relationship. We cannot just be silent and not resolving the conflict.

Because at the end of the day, couple should resolve their conflict right away. Face the realities and decide to journey together in marriage.

You can’t continue with the silent treatment that other people think that your relationship is ok.

One time a neighbor approached the husband, you know I admire you and your wife because for a long time that we were a neighbor I never heard you arguing or fighting unlike us. What is your secret? Actually, the secret why we were silent because we are not talking for years now.

Imagine how many wasted years in a relationship, being together but living in stress.

IT’S A JOURNEY

Being together is a journey.

There will be a fight but it’s a part of it.

We need to enjoy the journey of being together. We need to learn how to listen otherwise small conflicts become big.

When no one listens, what happens we ask for marriage councilors. What do the councilor do, councilor says “Mister what the wife says is this and that…the counselor will just repeat and clarify what the couple did not bother to listen to…And the last stage when both parties don’t agree to listen and settle, the will go to court, and the court will try to bring about all your flaws to have ground for separations.

Imagine the time, the resources and reputation lost which can be resolved when they started to listen to each other at the start.

How much money and time lost that could be used for a Caribbean cruise and a second honeymoon.

The Grace to be Rooted and Grounded

Rooted is an agricultural term. Grounded is a structural term.

Our life is like a field wherein it should be rooted down in love.

Like a farmer who is planting a good seed, we should also plant a good seed of love.

 

The fruit is in the root

To be able to manifest the fruit of a lasting relationship, we need to be rooted.

You cannot expect a fruit unless there is a root.

The fruit is just a manifestation of what is in the root

You cannot expect a good fruit unless the seed is good.

Anything that springs up comes from the root that springs down.

For a relationship to last, it should be rooted and founded well that no matter how strong the wind of storms, no matter how many trials a couple faces; the couple could be able to last it all even against all odds.

 

May your love be always rooted and grounded,

Mikesendon

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Reflection, Seven Last Words

Mother, he is your son. She is your mother

JESUS GREAT LOVE FOR HER MOTHERHe is your son

She is your son. The third last words while Jesus was hanging on the cross.
In this words, Jesus had shown His great love for her mother even He was at the last moment of his life.
Here, Mary had shown how great is the love of a mother for a son.

He felt what Her mother felt.

When Jesus said, “Mother, he is your son” did not mean that he don’t acknowledge her as a mother but rather He felt the pain her mother’s feeling on that time.
He was not only hurt by the beatings, by the tortures, from the spittle, from the people insults, from all the lashes and physical punishment he received; Jesus was more hurt seeing Her beloved mother suffer.
To see her mother weeping from the time that He was seized by the soldiers, falsely accused by the witnesses, judged by the Pharisees, tortures by the Roman soldiers until the time that He was hanging on the cross.
Who has a heart of stone who will not be moved to see your own mother in tears and suffers.
Only if Mary could carry the cross for Jesus. Mother’s instinct to bear the pain to spare his children from suffering and pain.

A Way of Saying Goodbye

Mother, she is your son- is a simple way of saying goodbye. “I will leave you now my beloved Mother”
The hardest word to part ways is goodbye. A single word but could make two people live in distance.
It was hard for Jesus to tell “Goodbye” as this will add more pain to her mother.
“Mother, I will not leave you completely alone. Here is John to take care of you”.
Jesus knew that John could fill the gap of her mother loneliness in his absence.
But even Jesus introduce John to be her son, it will never change the fact that the pain will remain in Mary’s heart.

Jesus Appreciate the Goodness of Mary

“Son, she is your mother”. Jesus was proud of Mary’s goodness.
He wanted to highlight Mary as His mother and a true disciple.
At this point, Jesus might had recollected all the good years she spent with her mother.
All the memories he treasured throughout those years had come alive in Jesus mind.

Have we still remember all the good times we had with our mother?
Are those good memories with them still lingers in our thoughts?
How lovely and refreshing it is to remember the days with our mothers. If we can only go back in time.
For some of you whose mother still alive, enjoy every moment with them. You will not go back in time.
Live every moment while you still have that opportunity to express your deep love and concerns for them.

“She is your son” is a words of description. It has a deep meaning as its rooted on the very essence of Mary as Jesus’ mother .
It’s a phrase to describe Mary’s many valuable traits as our mother.
Jesus love her mother. He was not ashamed to declare to John that love.
He wanted John to experience the love He had with her mother.

JESUS ENTRUSTED MARY TO JOHN

He asked John to let Mary be his mother

She is your mother- these are words of entrusting Mary to a dear friend.
Jesus trust John that he could consider Mary as his own mother.
He wanted to ease the loneliness of her mother’s heart and the pain of losing a son.
He felt the Pain of Losing a Dear Friend
She is your mother-a phrase to ease John’s pain in losing a beloved trusted friend, a brother and Master.
He wanted John to remember Him by her mother’s presence.
Jesus knew that Mary would be there for him for comforting for losing a dear friend.

Jesus Appreciates John Faithfulness

Mother, he is your son- Jesus highlight John’s faithfulness a friend and disciple.
He recognizes John’s loyalty that in spite of the risk of being seized and captured by those people who put Jesus to death, yet he remains until the dying of Jesus on the cross.
Among all the chosen apostles, he was there at the foot of cross.
If John did not leave him, Jesus was surely knew he will never leave her mother under his care.
Without shadow of doubt, he said “She is your mother.”

MARY AS A GOOD MOTHER

Mary Rejoices When She Know She will Bear a Child

Luke 1:38 says ‘I am the Lord’s servant” said Mary; “May it happen to me as you have said”…
One of the dangerous place today for a child is the mother’s womb.
Widespread campaign of abortion and use of contraceptives posses risk to so many unborn child just at the womb of a mother.
If for some, to bear a baby is a burden, for Mary, it was of great blessings to be gifted as mother.
Mother is God’s co-creator.
For some, they are worried to bear a child as they were made by accident. For men, it could be an accident but God has His own purpose.
There could be an illegitimate parents yet with God, all are legitimate children.

Mary Raises Her Child to Grew Strong and Full of Wisdom

The child grew and become strong; he was full of wisdom and God’s blessing were upon Him-Luke 2:40
Mary was a responsible mother. Patience and love was so deep that she taught her son well.
Mother is our first teacher.
Today, there are a lot of children grew in the care of their Nannies.
Absentee parenting becomes common in our times. More parents that are less hands-on.

Mary Works Behind the Scene of Jesus Ministry

Mary was very supportive on her son’s ministry.

Mary Remains with Jesus even to His Death

Standing close to Jesus’ cross were here mother…-John 19:25
Mary endured all the pain and suffering as her son suffered.
She knew long time what would be the fate of her son. Simeon said when he prophesied “He will be a sign from God which many people will speak against and so reveal their secret thoughts. And sorrow, like a sharp wood will break your own heart”..

LOVE OUR MOTHER AS JESUS LOVES HER MOTHER

We Cannot Repay our Mother

Continue to do good and express always our love for our mother.
Cherish every moment while you are still with them and they are with us.
There is nothing compares to the love of a mother gives to us.
Thank God for having them. We can choose our partners and friends but not our parents.
Parents are God’s blessing to us.

Mike Sendon